Please Help...need to figure out something for my cousin....?

This also bothers me as this cousin is very special to me.. She is 40 years old....married to a 40 y/o guy, they have been married for 20 years...they have two boys....19 and 18... My cousin earns more than her husband, she takes care of the finances...rent, car payments and bills. the husband helps out when he wanted to. he verbally abuses her....and yet when he is in a good mood, he treats her like a queen...and make her feel that she%26#039;s the most beautiful and smart woman in the world. When she pours out her heartache to me..i can always say i wanted her to get out of the relationship but she never did. i introduced her to chatting in YM and she met lots of friends...now her husband is getting jealous of all of them to the extent of e-mailing them nasty stuff. my cousin is not cheating and yet...she told me that she wants out of this marriage because he never trusted her, always belittling her..calling her names. Do you think she%26#039;s right that she wanted to divorce him?

Please Help...need to figure out something for my cousin....?

This is none of your business. She needs to do what she feels is right for her. The more that she is told to do something, the more likely she is to do the opposite.

She needs to maybe have some guidance toward a third party (her dr. or someone else that she trusts) that can give her an unbiased opinion.

Please Help...need to figure out something for my cousin....?

marriage is hard work esp a 20 year old marriage... u need to butt out and let the husband and wife sort it out within themselves...

Please Help...need to figure out something for my cousin....?

only your cousin can figure this one out. just be there for her when she does. Either way!!

Please Help...need to figure out something for my cousin....?

i am going to tell you something about abuse it hurts no matter who is or is not in the relationship persay i have been there trust me when i say she is right in feeling the way she does and sure she needs to get out of it but do it the right way and get divorced NO PERSON DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE A DOG ok bye

Please Help...need to figure out something for my cousin....?

best thing you could do is not get in to tis after all she has to make her mind up and reaally this is nothing to you in my opion?